Are Your Student’s Testing You, are You Passing the Test?

Children who come from early childhood trauma (abuse, neglect, domestic violence, etc.) often do not feel secure in their environment or with adults or peers. It’s like they are always looking for the next shoe to drop or for something else to go wrong. Sometimes they will even test new adults and friends in their […]

TRAUMA, DISRUPTED ATTACHMENT AND SURVIVAL

TRAUMA, DISRUPTED ATTACHMENT AND SURVIVAL   When children are exposed to early, complex, and/or long-term trauma, their brains can become wired for self-protection. Often, it makes them feel responsible for taking care of themselves. This focus on survival and controlling one’s environment can affect the natural progression through the developmental stages, impacting conscience development and […]

Mental Health Concern or Emotional Immaturity?

Mental Health Concern or Emotional Immaturity When searching for solutions to a child’s misbehavior or emotional concerns, we have to ask whether the behavior is related to an underlying mental illness, is it a maturity issue, or both. We need to understand that emotional development occurs in stages, what disrupts the natural development process, and […]

Resiliency

Resiliency is something that is developed and learned through adversity and struggle. It is an internal process and it is unique to each individual. Resiliency is not a product that can be given through lectures, treats, lessons, etc. (external) and there are no quick answers. Just think about your own experience with learning resiliency. When […]

Manage Parent Concerns

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Parents are often upset or come to us with concerns. It is important to remain calm and non-defensive when this happens. It’s often best to return the parent’s call instead of emailing them. Occasionally it will be appropriate to email the parent, but first  have someone else read through the email, and do not send […]

Is Attention a Need or a Want?

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We all love getting attention or being noticed in some way. At Healing Children, we recognize that receiving attention is a human need. We all need to be loved, feel as though we belong, and that we are cared about. So how do we fulfill this need in kids who have significant behavioral problems?   Often […]

Healthy Compliance

One thing that interferes with setting boundaries is our views and history with authority. Think about your personal feelings with authority and how those feelings may or may not impact your relationship with your students or the children you support. For example, suppose you had negative experiences with an overbearing or abusive parent as a […]

Waiting it Out Versus Power Struggle

What is the difference between waiting out a student’s misbehavior versus getting into a power struggle?    Power Struggle The mindset of a power struggle is, “I have to control the child to make them behave.” This mindset can result in the following behavior on the part of the adult: Use of anger to evoke […]

Is Healing Children Trauma-Informed?

People often ask if Healing Children, LLC is trauma-informed. The simple answer is yes. We have been studying the impact of trauma, attachment, and development since the 1990s, long before “trauma-informed” became a buzzword of today. We are mental health professionals who have been working in schools for more than 20 years. We recommend healthy, […]