TRAUMA, DISRUPTED ATTACHMENT AND SURVIVAL

TRAUMA, DISRUPTED ATTACHMENT AND SURVIVAL   When children are exposed to early, complex, and/or long-term trauma, their brains can become wired for self-protection. Often, it makes them feel responsible for taking care of themselves. This focus on survival and controlling one’s environment can affect the natural progression through the developmental stages, impacting conscience development and […]

Mental Health Concern or Emotional Immaturity?

Mental Health Concern or Emotional Immaturity When searching for solutions to a child’s misbehavior or emotional concerns, we have to ask whether the behavior is related to an underlying mental illness, is it a maturity issue, or both. We need to understand that emotional development occurs in stages, what disrupts the natural development process, and […]

Resiliency

Resiliency is something that is developed and learned through adversity and struggle. It is an internal process and it is unique to each individual. Resiliency is not a product that can be given through lectures, treats, lessons, etc. (external) and there are no quick answers. Just think about your own experience with learning resiliency. When […]

Self-Doubt

self doubt

At the end of the school year, we often reflect on how we did. Sometimes there is a little seed of doubt planted in our minds as to how we measured up as an educator.   You may doubt yourself and think, “I must not know how to teach very well because so-and-so isn’t learning. […]

Is Attention a Need or a Want?

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We all love getting attention or being noticed in some way. At Healing Children, we recognize that receiving attention is a human need. We all need to be loved, feel as though we belong, and that we are cared about. So how do we fulfill this need in kids who have significant behavioral problems?   Often […]

Waiting it Out Versus Power Struggle

What is the difference between waiting out a student’s misbehavior versus getting into a power struggle?    Power Struggle The mindset of a power struggle is, “I have to control the child to make them behave.” This mindset can result in the following behavior on the part of the adult: Use of anger to evoke […]

Is Healing Children Trauma-Informed?

People often ask if Healing Children, LLC is trauma-informed. The simple answer is yes. We have been studying the impact of trauma, attachment, and development since the 1990s, long before “trauma-informed” became a buzzword of today. We are mental health professionals who have been working in schools for more than 20 years. We recommend healthy, […]

Involving Parents

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Calling parents to inform them about their child’s progress or behavior can be uncomfortable. We often do everything we can to avoid having these types of difficult conversations. However, this does a disservice to the child because it keeps their parents from helping them and being a part of the solution. Provided are some helpful […]